Why you should celebrate and be happy while you’re still SINGLE.

I invariably find people who consider and view “in a relationship” as the best part of life. But they never crossed to a thought that being single is always a genuine chance to be productive and emancipating times of life.


This blog post does not mean demeaning those that are in relationship status. I even look up to those who can handle their relationship even hard situations may have tried to break it, but as sturdy as the foundation of the building made them secure and continue to fight for they know love always wins.

Some would eventually consider and truly believe that there’s no possibility of happiness because the status that says I’m single is a sure mark of being unhappy. You actually only set yourself up for disappointment, pain, and the inescapable of entering unhealthy relationship. If you drive yourself to the limits because you are eager to enter into in a relationship status, the relationship you eventually enter won’t last and you’re going to spiral down and that’s hard.

I constantly hear people say  being single is the most loneliness, drudging, ill-fated, unsound and reprehensible part of their life as I once believe too. But we frequently forget that it is the perfect time to allow ourselves to experience so much about life. It can be the most awesome, magical and wonderful time of your aliveness.

Below are the list of reasons why you should be glad and celebrate your life as a single. 


1. You can just do whatever you want.

We are all given the chance to execute the things we want in life, but doing whatever we want only comes when we are single. Come to think of your desires, something you really want from the very start, something you have long been dreaming to achieve, but you simply can’t find the right time when to start and how to attain it. The best time to collide with those goals is now that you’re officially single. So starting today, grant yourself the chance to figure out what you really want and pursue them.

2. It’s about time to rivet on your goals and aspirations.

We all have goals and dreams to achieve, but we barely can’t find the right reasons to establish them into reality. Because our focus has been snatched from us and has been cast in the barred cell of this thought “Relationship goals”. Why not yield yourself a genuine chance to also focus on your own “goals”. Why not consider planning,  hold action, be motivated and achieved those goals that has long been penned on your bucket list. I’m not stating it is not good to aim for “relationship goals” there’s nothing wrong about that. What I have in mind is, considering your own goals and later on the right person will come and you’ll share your goals and dreams with that right person.

3. It’s about time to recognize more about yourself what you can do and what you can still do.

Isn’t it awesome when you get the chance to know yourself and start rebuilding the remaining pieces after your painful past relationship? When you only recall about your goals and dreams and nothing else? Loving yourself for who you are and not what people require you to be. It is the fourth dimension where you can embrace and enjoy the sweetness of freedom. There may be still special gifts that have been kept deep in your existence and remain undiscovered. And as soon as you come to know more yourself, you’ll be amazed of what you can do and what you can still do. So be excited to embrace yourself, and this may be the chance and time as a big turning point in your lifetime.

4. It is such a good sound to enjoy life without “calling for permission”.

To be respected, you likewise have to respect. Exactly like any intimate relationships, we always have to ask permission every time we want to do something as a sign of respect to our better half. Like going out with friends, attending parties, and many others. It is then a dependable way to  maintain the harmonious relationship between you and your better half. Simply enjoying life without needing permission to anyone is, I guess sound cool, right? I know we all have been dreaming to experience freedom in anything we do, so if happen you’re still single now, you better enjoy and use your freedom in your own way but in a right way.

5. It’s the best time to spend quality time with your family.

Consider it or not, your family is your Gem. No matter what happened, they will always be your kin. If you hold a good paying job, or even not that much, take them out, treat them and bring them on a short vacation. The curved lines painting their face, is a sure happiness that is always beyond compare. Your family will appreciate the small things you do. I recognize there are many ways to make them happy, prepare their food, talk with them, watching movies together over a home made snacks. This will always something better than spending your time with somebody you’re not bound to forever.

6. It’s the best time to build good memories with your friends, make and meet new friends.

Making good memories with your friends are always great. Your true friends are your next Gem after your family. Go out with them, know them deeply by spending good time together. Constitute a “friendship goals” build trust, be loyal, be faithful, respect and love them for they will genuinely treat you back with the genuine reasons to do the same. We are all travelling  in a different route it may either straight, curves, and zigzag roads. We are also destined to meet dissimilar  people, make friend, share your authentic grin, be good and be a help and inspiration to the people you share the road with.

“You can’t stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” – A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh.

7. It’s about time to be productive in your preferred career. 

Relationships won’t transform you into interesting person that is filled with unparalleled abilities to be successful in your chosen passage. I habituated to believe that having someone to be “in a relationship”  with would somehow make me more interesting and be successful. Which I think will work in some ways, but hey, wake up from your catnapping moment. The truth is, you’re carrying your own work load on your shoulders, whether you’re single or otherwise. You can do things on your own, you were once having served it so just continue what you have started. Set out to deep dive on subjects you really enjoyed and love the most as it will love you back and may lead you to succeed in your chosen career.

8. It’s about time to go out of your comfort zone, travel, explore the world and go beyond the limits.

“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.” Saint Augustine

Never allow yourself to be disappointed by the things you didn’t do which you should have done while you’re still single. The best time to add an extra color in your life’s journey is when you chose to get your backpack and be lost in a one place where everyone consider you as strangers. Trust me, you’ll discover more about yourself by doing that. You’ll find out the other side of yourself when you travel and immerse yourself in nature. So what are you waiting for then? Plan your next trip and wander as much as you can.

9. Spend quality time with God.

Human as we are, and considering ourselves as “single” we all have battles with loneliness at some point. Sometimes we go through something hard that we don’t believe anyone else can understand. We also go through a change in life where we can feel so alone and we can’t think of anyone to share our sentiments with. God’s Word provides hope and strength every bit we come nearer to Him each day. Our sufferings, pains, frustrations, and all the burdens that makes us weak will all be diminished as we trust Him to help us get out of all these and start a fresh life with Him. God is someone who is closer than a brother and is always with you, a friend and a comforter.

Isaiah 41:10
So do not fear, for I am with you; Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

I hope I have made my single friends out there to have their reasons to be happy and just enjoy their life. There are many fish in the sea, play and have fun. To my friends who nevertheless want to pursue their relationship, it’s not bad at all to do so. Hold the love burning and fight your love for someone who also fight their love for you.

To my single friends, run on for a date, but don’t expect each date will lead to “the one”. Learn to hold your dates under observation first.. The right one will enter your life when you’re not having a bun in the oven and you’ll know the right one when it happens.


  1. This is a great post friend. The way I see it is like this,

    God created marriage and it’s amazing but God also created singleness and it should be amazing. If we are not enjoying our singleness then we have being deceived.
    Singlness is being, whole, complete, unique.
    As a single person I look and evaluate myself. Am I really whole, complete, unique or do I need someone, long for someone, rely on someone to be steady and whole. Because even in marriage I need to be a whole person to my wife, I must be complete as a person and God must be the center that defines everything that I am!.
    So that’s what I want to add on.


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  2. Life is like a coin with two faces………

    Being single is like a free bird in the open sky and everyone likes that freedom and me too. However the bird has to return back to its nest before it becomes dark, the nest where his loved ones will be waiting for him. One day suddenly when you return and find no one there, a deserted planet. Please imagine….

    Life is a journey of immense thoughts, expectations and experiences some good and some little good. Single means you no more have any expectations from others and neither from Life. You live the way you want. However one should not forget about the responsibilities, responsibilities towards the Life. Now you have enough time to think and do different and let’s do it.

    Each time you won’t like the head or the tail…………let’s try to balance it.


  3. Woah. This post is great, Lai! I really must share this to my friends who think that I’m miserable living a single life. Haha. I completely agree with all of these. 😉

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    1. Hello Maria,
      I’m glad you liked my blog post. Yeah, I’ve been holding out a miserable life since I got rifted with my past relationship. But on the way I realized that I should be happy living a life while I’m still single. To inspire other single out there, I was able to compose this article.

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      1. And I’m glad that you used that experience to inspire people like me. This really speaks of the freedom and bliss of living life while not degrading those who are in a relationship. 🙂


  4. I sooo agree with you. I don’t understand why people, especially here in the Philippines for some reason, feel so incomplete when they’re single when there’s so much you can do! You have more time and more resources – all those money you can save from dates haha. You also have more opportunity to mingle with the opposite sex without worrying that you’re crossing the line or that someone may get jealous. It’s total freedom.

    I don’t know if you’ll see this as connected with your post, but a few months ago I wrote about being happy as a single person first before jumping into a relationship. I believe that we are complete as individuals, and realizing this is a requisite to a happy relationship as opposed to looking for a partner to feel a deficient self-love. You can read it here: http://www.taraletsanywhere.com/finding-love-road/


  5. I love it lai!!! Cant believe that you do have an amazing words of wisdom there! Cant wait to catch up or tell me more about your travels!
    Cheers! For the first time i read your blog! Keep me posted! 🙂


  6. I’m married, love it, & am here to comment you on a very wise post. The most important thing any of us can do is to enjoy life, whether one is single or in a relationship. It’s all life, & its all worth living to the fullest.


  7. I like the helpful information you provide in your articles. I will bookmark your blog and check again here frequently. I am quite sure I’ll learn a lot of new stuff right here! Good luck for the next!


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